I have noticed lately that people I used to find irritating or upsetting, don’t do that anymore. When did they change? Or is it I who have changed? Maybe it’s because I recognize that the characteristic I find irksome in them is the very thing I hate and try to hide in myself. It is humbling to admit that: humbling and necessary for growth. When I am tempted to notice a flaw and allow myself to become self-righteous, I remind myself that I am, at the core, the same. And if I act in a way contrary to the perceived hurtful or sinful behavior, I set the other person free. In the process, I am also freed, and love, rather than judgment and criticism directs our exchange. It almost sounds too simple, but by thinking the best, rather than the worst, about others, reality can be changed.

About dmdubay

Since retiring from Northwest Airlines and moving to the Pacific Northwest, I have more time to devote to writing. My first novel, "Tales of Two Sisters" was published over a year ago. I have been writing poetry for a long time and am attempting to collate my poetry into a short book, with pictures. A sequel to "Tales of Two Sisters" should be getting closer to completion soon. Gardening and tending the vineyard take a lot of time in the summer. Even though I love the outdoors, these activities do cut down on my writing. So I appreciate that wintertime allows me time to write. Writing, for me, is what brings things into focus and helps me to make sense of the things that life brings. It is a gift to me and I hope that it will be to you also.
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2 Responses to change

  1. To your point, I have always tried to accept each person for who they are, for who am I to judge. We all have our gifts and flaws, yet we all have a purpose. It may not always be obvious, but I believe that we can all learn a little something from each and every person we meet.


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